美文阅读：既然付出就不要期待回报

美文阅读：既然付出就不要期待回报

　　既然付出就不要期待回报

　　A man is known by the company he keeps they say. If it is so,then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness with them as companions.loneliness is not something that doesn't exist at all with any human being on earth.Every human being feels lonely in his life at some point or other. It's but natural to have such feeling ,because that's what makes us all human and that is why we are as we are now.

　　他们说人总是为他身边的人所知的。如果是这样的话，每个人都注定与孤独为伍。孤独感是每个人都会有的，都会在某个时候，感到孤独，这是非常自然的。因为孤独感令我们成人，并令我们成为现在的我们。

　　If we shed some light on why we feel aloof or lonely at times, we would be very much astonished or even probably surprised by the results. We ourselves are responsible for our selfdefined gloominess. This is because at times we really feel that we are uncared for or feel someone doesn't understand us.

　　如果我们再三思考为什么我们有的时候会觉得高处不胜寒或孤独时，我们会对分析的结果感到非常的吃惊。我们自己应该对我们自己所定义的忧郁付责任。因为有的时候，我们真的觉得我们被忽视或者不被理解。

　　Sometimes we over analyze real life situations and have this growing sense of self pity inside us. This feeling always gives us thoughts which picturise us always receiving the wrong end of the stick in life.The truth might not always be true if we touch our heart and see. Its just that our expectations in life and from people around us or circumstances that we are facing,have got the better of us. Expectation is the silent killer which murders millions of mushy and time tested relationships. If there would have been no expectations from anyone, the world would have been a much better place to be. If there would have been no expectationds,not many people would have had an aching heart and a life long grouse against there would have been better haves.If it wouldn't have been for unreasonable expectations not many couples would have divorced each other.

　　有的时候我们过度的分析了真实的情况，这令我们自己产生了自己怜悯自己的`感觉。这种感觉经常会给我们错觉，如果我们扪心自问，真相并不总是真的，它们只是我们对身边人和环境过高的期待。期待是一个沉默的杀手，谋杀了无数经过时间考验的人也人之间的关系。如果没有了对任何人的期待，那么这个世界将会并得更好。如果没有期待，就不会有那么多人感到心疼，而对于有些人，一生的埋怨也就不会那么长了。如果没有那些不切实际的期待，也就不会有那么多夫妻离婚了。

　　How to come out of expectations them? Good question. The answer is when you give something, don't expect anything in return. When our mother gave birth to us, she never expected that we will give birth to her.She has just fulfilled her desire to raise a family and live for them. In the same way, let our actions make us live for our self and let not expectation screw up the major portion of your lives. Let us have the freedom and will power to express our love, affection and longingness for people whenever we feel. Let us not restrict our freedom of expression just because he or she is not responding the way we want them to.

　　那么怎样才能跳出期望呢？好问题。答案是，当我们给予的时候，不要期待任何报答。我们的妈妈给予我们生命，决没有期望我们也给予她生命。她仅仅是完成了她拥有一个家庭并为之而活的理想。同样，让我们为自己而活，不要让期待成为你生命的大部分。让我们自由的表达我们的爱感动和渴望。当别人没有象我们期待的那样回应，我们也不要失去表达感情的自由。

　　Well all in all a little bit of loneliness is good for a self-analysis to keep a check over your actions. Introspection always makes you communicate with the innerself, but too much of introspection can make you scale the altitude of self pity. So show restrain at the right time.

　　当然，总的来说，一点点的孤独对一个人审视自己的行为是有好处的。自省总是会使你与你的心灵有所交流。但是过度的自省，会使我们总感觉遗憾，因此，还是适而可止的好。

　　美文阅读:真爱，零期待

　　什么是爱，又有多少人真正懂爱；零期待的爱，又有多少人能做到。只能说，如果真爱对方，多点给予，少点索取；多点包容，少点要求。

　　真爱，零期待

　　I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:

　　我曾有个朋友，我们的关系很亲密。有一次我们坐在游泳池边上，她载手掌里盛了点儿水，捧在我面前，说:

　　You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… They try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spillin out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you.

　　你仔细看我手上这水了吗？那代表爱。只要你充满关爱地弯曲着你的手指，并允许它保持在那儿，它会永远在那儿。但是，如果你试图把你的手指在它周围合起并试图占有它，它会通过它找到的缝溢出去。这是人们当他们遇到爱时犯的最大的错误…他们试图占有它，他们要求，他们期待，那样就像溢出你的手掌的水一样，爱会从你身边撤退。

　　For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.

　　因为爱意味着自由随意,你不能改变它的本性。

　　If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feelno expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.

　　如果你有爱的人，允许他们自由随意的存在。给予而不指望；建议而不命令；请求而不要求；可能听起来简单，但这需要一辈子去实践。这就是真爱的秘诀。真正去实践它，你必须对那些你爱的人没有期望，并给予无条件的关爱。

　　美文赏析:赞扬的益处~(不要吝啬于对别人的赞美）

　　有时候，我们总吝啬于真诚的去赞美别人，要知道，发自内心的赞美绝对是双赢的。哈哈~大家试一下吧~要真诚的哦。

　　赞扬的益处

　　It was the end of my exhausting first day as a waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone awry, my apron was stained, my feet ached. The loaded trays I carried felt heavier and heavier. Weary and discouraged, I didn't seem able to do anything right. As I made out a complicated check for a family with several children who had changed their ice-cream order a dozen times, I was ready to quit.

　　我在纽约一家繁忙餐馆做女招待的第一天就要结束了，我感到精疲力尽。我的帽子歪了，围裙上污迹斑斑，两脚疼痛难忍。盛着食物的托盘让我感觉越来越沉重。我又疲倦又沮丧，似乎什么事情都没能干好。有一个带着好几个小孩的人家，他们在要冰激凌时换来换去多达十几次，就在我为他们开好复杂和账单时，我准备辞职不干了。

　　Then the father smiled at me as he handed me tip. "Well done," he said. "You've looked after us really well."

　　这时，那位当父亲一边把小费递给我，一边对我微笑。“干得不错，”他说，“你对我们照顾得真周到。”

　　Suddenly my tiredness vanished. I smiled back, and later, when the manager asked me how I'd liked my first day, I said, "Fine!" Those few words of praise had changed everything.

　　顿时，我的倦意消失了。我对他也报以微笑。后来，经理问我第一天上班的感觉时，我说：“好极了！”那不多的几个赞美之辞改变了一切。

　　请不要让你的爱继续等待

　　Do not wait... 爱，永远禁不起等待

　　Don’t wait for a smile to be nice...

　　不要等到了一个笑容才面露慈善

　　Don’t wait to be loved, to love.

　　不要等被爱了以后，才要去爱

　　Don’t wait to be lonely, to recognize the value of a friend.

　　不要等到寂寞了，才明白朋友的价值。

　　Don’t wait for the best job, to begin to work.

　　不要非要等到一份最好的工作，才要开始工作

　　Don’t wait to have a lot, to share a bit.

　　不要等拥有许多后，才开始分享一些

　　Don’t wait for the fall, to remember the advice.

　　不要等到失败后，才记得别人的忠告

　　Don’t wait for pain, to believe in prayer.

　　不要等到受伤了，才相信愿意祈祷

　　Don’t wait to have time, to be able to serve.

　　不一定要等到有时间，才能够去付出服务

　　Don’t wait for anybody else pain, to ask for apologies...

　　不要等别人受伤了，才来乞求原谅

　　... neither separation to make it up.

　　不要等到分开了，才想到去挽回

　　Don’t wait...

　　Because you don’t know how long it will take.

　　不要等待,因为，你不知道等待需要花费多少的时间

　　Remember: Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

　　记得：友谊像醇酒，越久越浓。

　　长大后 请不要再像个大孩子

　　想想吧，如果停止抱怨的话你会变得多么快乐。反正那些事情又无力改变，整天想着那些你无力改变的事情又有什么意义呢？如果你来问我，我会说那样很愚蠢。当你意识到自己在抱怨的时候，停下来，问问自己是要变得快乐，还是继续这样抱怨下去。

　　你准备好过没有抱怨，更加快乐的生活了吗？

　　“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” —Dale Carnegie

　　If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?

　　We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want. But if we’re always whining and complaining all the time, are we really living effectively?

　　If you don’t believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day. Whether it be being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.

　　But it’s not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about about ourselves too. We complain that we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enough money (this one is huge because it’s often “true”), that we’re not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.

　　I know I’ve experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can’t control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about “living in a complain free world.”

　　Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining? Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What’s the point of brooding about something you have no power to change? Not very intelligent, if you ask me.

　　Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you’re complaining, stop and take notice of it. Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.

　　Are you ready to live a complaint-free, happier life?

　　英语美文 不要等待Do not wait

　　不要等被爱了以后，才要去爱

　　Don't wait to be loved, to love

　　不要等到寂寞了，才明白朋友的价值、重要

　　Don't wait to be lonely, to recognize the value of a friend.

　　不要非要等到一份最好的工作，才要开始工作

　　Don't wait for the best job, to begin to work.

　　不要等拥有许多后，才开始分享一些

　　Don't wait to have a lot, to share a bit.

　　不要等到失败后，才记得别人的忠告

　　Don't wait for the fall, to remember the advice.

　　不要等到痛苦了，才开始要祷告

　　Don't wait for pain, to believe in prayer.

　　不一定要等到有时间，才能够去付出、服务

　　Don't wait to have time, to be able to serve.

　　不要等别人受伤了，才来乞求原谅

　　Don't wait for anybody else pain, to ask for apologies...

　　也不要，等分开了，才来挽回

　　... neither separ ation to make it up.

　　不要等待

　　Don't wait...

　　因为，你不知道等待需要花费多少的时间

　　Because you don't know how long it will take.

　　请记住：友谊像酒一样，年代越久远越醇香。

　　Remember: Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older..